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Go Deeper

Ask God to give you wisdom about your decision to remarry. In John 16, the Bible says the Holy Spirit will guide us into all truth, declaring the things to come. In Psalm 119, the Bible says God’s word is a lamp unto our feet and a light to our path. Studying God’s word can help you go deeper and discover wisdom about moving forward with your remarriage plans. Pray. Study God’s Word. And He will provide wisdom for you to plan your remarriage.

Suggestions

Think about the different scenarios you might find yourself in with this new person if you marry them. Everything is on the table to be discussed, from stepparenting roles to intimacy. Delise called this exercise Cowboy Trivia. Initially, she asked me questions over the phone, and eventually, I did the same with her. She called it Cowboy Trivia because I grew up on an Oklahoma ranch. Sometimes, we would plan unique getaways and include a time for Cowboy Trivia.

1. Each of you should make a list of scenario questions. Most likely, your fears about remarriage will determine the scenario questions you’ll ask, and that’s what you should do.
2. Discuss. Find a time to get away to discuss. We took an entire afternoon away from all distractions to do Cowboy Trivia. We wrote our scenario questions on paper and placed them in a box, and one by one, we discussed them. It helped us shine a light on our fears about remarriage.
3. Repeat Cowboy Trivia as needed.

Prayer

Jesus, I open my heart to you. I ask you to help me go deeper with you. Let the depth of my knowledge, trust, and understanding of you increase today. God, I need you today to help me be open to learning everything I can about (potential spouse name). God, help my eyes open wide to see all the beautiful things you have put in this person. Please help me understand how to lovingly make plans and adjustments needed to come up with compromises about future scenarios. Lord, I ask you to help me hear your voice on these matters so that I will know what your will is because your choice for me is good and pleasing. Speak to me, God; I am listening. Lead us, God. I am ready to follow you and your will. In Jesus’ name, amen.