Quit Daydreaming: How to Wake Up & Break Free (Part 3)نموونە

The Obsession with Me, Myself and I, Self-Pity & Self-Hate

When people lack relationships with others, they tend to rely on their inner thoughts for assurance, affirmation, and guidance.

While this inner voice, which is also known as our conscience, can serve as a helpful tool to convict us when we do wrong, when we have no other voice of reason to rely on, it can also drive us to make impulsive decisions.

Human beings were built for relationships. After God created Adam, He stated it was not good for man to be alone and made him a suitable partner to share his duties with.

Evidently, when a person struggles to relate to others, they stop reaching out to other people and instead withdraw within themselves. This is how the obsession with ‘me, myself, and I’ is born.

Some people may argue they cannot be obsessed with themselves since they do not conflate their self-worth. But that’s just it; the fixation on self does not necessarily have to take on the form of arrogance or pride.

On the contrary, people can become obsessed with themselves by harboring self-deprecating thoughts that highlight their weaknesses.

Just like an individual who is obnoxiously full of themselves can construct a world that revolves around how “amazing” they are, someone with low self-esteem can create a reality where they are the worst person to have ever walked the earth.

Both ends of the spectrum are equally dangerous since preoccupation with self leads to selfishness, self-pity, and self-hate.

Can I let you in on a little secret? Making everything about what you think and how you feel is the quickest way to sabotage relationships because selfishness and self-centered thinking is the primary cause of conflicts, disagreements, and dissension.

In fact, scripture is very clear about emphasizing the importance of selflessness, and the greatest example it gives revolves around Christ Himself. Since Christ loved us so much, we should also be willing to give up our lives for our brothers and sisters.

Obviously, this is not possible if we are only thinking about ourselves.