Growing Your Marriage ‐ Part 1Sample

Knowing What You Have Control Over

Devotional Content:

Recently I asked a number of couples this question: “What things in your marriage make you sad?” The answers were varied: “taking each other for granted,” “my spouse’s words and actions due to drinking,” “my husband’s family hurting him,” “the thought of losing my wife,” and “not listening to each other.”

Some of these are situations we can do something about, and some are really out of our control. My advice is this: If there is something you can do about a situation, do it. Do it now. Don’t waste another day.

On the other hand, if the situation is out of your control, you must first learn to accept that fact. Secondly, set boundaries that are healthy for you if needed. Finally, pray. We sometimes forget the power of prayer. Seek God’s help, wisdom, and intervention. One of the many amazing things I have learned about God is that He always shows up!

Today’s Challenge: Trust God to reveal to you the things you have control over and the things you have zero control over in your marriage.

Going Deeper:

1. What things in your marriage can make you sad?

2. Which of these are in your control and which are out of your control?

3. Will you commit to work on the things that you have some control over?

4. Will you commit to let go of the things that are out of control?

5. Dr. Kim says, “God always shows up.” Are you willing to lay both the things you can control and the things you cannot control at His feet for His input, His guidance, and His miracles?