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Tips On Motherhood

DAY 6 OF 7

BIRDS AND THE BEES

Many moms ask me when is the “right” time to talk to children about sex. Like everything else in parenting, there is no magic formula. I have four children, and I told them all at different times and in different ways. You, as a mom, have to adjust your talk according to your child’s personality and temperament. Here are some overarching thoughts on the matter:

The sex talk cannot be just one talk anymore . . . it’s a continual conversation.

  • Start when they are very young, setting the foundation at 2–5 years old by teaching them not to allow anyone to touch their private parts.
  • Continue to have conversations on this theme through high school.
  • Create a safe environment for your children to open up to you.
  • Tell them that you are on their side. Be honest with them and encourage them to ask you questions instead of asking their friends, because you are experienced and you will tell them the truth.
  • Don’t just say, “don’t have sex,” explain the why behind the no.
  • For boys, talk about pornography and why it is harmful to their hearts and minds.
  • For girls, explain to them that you understand the need to feel wanted and loved and you want that for them as well. Tell them that you want them to experience true love the way God designed it to be.

Talking about sex is awkward, but in our culture, peers, movies, and the media are leading too many children astray at every age. We as moms need to push aside our fear of awkwardness and instill wisdom into our children.

One last thing: keep in mind that your children may stumble and fall in this area. If or when that happens, you should be the first in line to show them unconditional love and compassion.

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Tips On Motherhood

Karen Stubbs is the founder and leader of Birds on a Wire, a ministry designed to equip moms through truth, encouragement and community. Karen is the wife of Greg Stubbs. They have four children, Kelsey, Emily, Taylor and Abby and reside in Cumming, Georgia. After graduating from Auburn University, she and Greg moved to Virginia Beach where Greg served in the Navy as a fighter pilot. The Navy was where Karen gained her passion for motherhood and grew in her reliance on God to get her through the tough Navy years as a young mom. She is passionate about challenging moms to experience motherhood in the way God intended it for them and their families.

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