Purity of Heart

Matthew 5:8

“Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.”

When we think about “purity” in a relationship, we typically think of not having sex before marriage. But remaining abstinent isn’t the only way to remain pure. While it’s definitely important, you shouldn’t ignore other areas of your life where purity matters — starting with Purity of Heart.

Purity in a Christian relationship extends beyond physical boundaries to the heart. It's about having pure intentions toward your partner. This means loving them with an unselfish, genuine love, as described in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7.

Love that is pure is patient, kind, not jealous or boastful, always truthful, and always hopeful. It goes beyond what we feel in any particular moment and extends to how we think about, speak to, and interact with the person we’re dating.

Because the truth is, you won’t always feel rainbows and butterflies in a relationship, especially as time goes on. You’ll face challenges. You’ll get upset with your partner. You might even get upset with God when things aren’t going well.

True purity of heart means caring for your partner in the good times and bad because you value them, not because you want something from them. It's about putting their needs before yours and building a relationship based on the strong, enduring love mentioned in the Bible. This kind of love gets stronger over time, even when things get tough.

Another way to remain pure of heart is to be honest with yourself and check your intentions. If you're dating someone just because you're lonely or want to fit in with your friends who are in relationships, then your motives aren't pure. However, if you're with them because you genuinely care for them and see a future with them, that is a pure intention.

Pursuing dating and relationships with a pure heart requires us to reflect deeply on our motives and intentions toward others. It involves approaching each relationship with honesty, selflessness, and a genuine desire to want the best for the other person. By doing so, we create connections that are fulfilling and honor God and His design for relationships.