A New Way to Love Your Neighborಮಾದರಿ

BE BRAVE: Love is Uncomfortable

Most of us have experienced some level of pain and disappointment in our relationships. Although there will be times when we need to draw boundaries with others -unconditional love is possible.

Many times, life demands that we set boundaries in our relationships and create space from unhealthy circumstances. But love is so much bigger—and braver. God demonstrated it and calls us to a transcendent love. It’s possible to have guidelines that govern a relationship without lessening our love. Boundaries don’t negate love and even when distance is necessary, it doesn’t have to mean disconnection.

How do we do that? How do we set boundaries that are built on God’s wisdom rather than our wounds? How do we love through the discomfort? In a world that runs away from discomfort in relationships, how do we gather the courage it takes to keep showing up? The answer is to look at God’s example in Christ, found in the Scriptures.

Christ models how to engage with difficult relationships. 2 Corinthians 5:19 says: "God was in Christ reconciling the world to Himself, not counting their trespasses against them." Despite our sin, Jesus moved toward us rather than away. Romans 5:8 reminds us: "But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us."

If God did not abandon us at our worst, we should extend the same grace to others, even when it’s uncomfortable. Love requires wisdom, and while we may need physical or emotional distance at times, we must be brave enough to remain open to reconciliation.

What do we do when faced with deep betrayal or offense? We can ask God for guidance rather than reacting impulsively. Sometimes we may need distance. But other times, extravagant mercy may be the right call. Consider how Jesus handled Peter’s denial. Instead of cutting Peter off, Jesus restored him, giving him a leadership role in the early church (John 21:15-19). Oftentimes, grace can lead to transformation.

Here are some good guidelines regarding boundaries as you seek to be brave in hard relationships, pushing through the discomfort, just as God did for you:

1. Pray for wisdom– Ask God how to set boundaries that reflect His love rather than self-protection.
2. Seek reconciliation when possible– Engage in hard conversations and offer grace, just as Christ does for us.
3. Set boundaries for growth– Ensure that your boundaries help both you and the other person mature in faith.
4. Trust God's protection– Remember that God is your ultimate protector, allowing you to love without fear.

Being brave in our love doesn’t mean we don't use wisdom. But boundaries should be a tool for love, not division. By following God’s example, we can honor Him while drawing close to those He places in our lives.