Love Is a PersonSample

“...Love is gentle and consistently kind to all...." 1 Corinthians 13:4 TPT

Loving with gentleness means conducting yourself with mildness and evenness of spirit. It is a display of love not found in extremes of emotion. 

Kindness is an action that elevates and honors another.

Kindness offered to another is a demonstration of the gentleness of our hearts. 

However, in our efforts to love others, it is the words consistently and all in this verse that stood out to me. It’s fairly easy to demonstrate love through kindness and gentleness with those who are easy to love. But difficult or annoying people? It’s not easy to consistently show love, and certainly not easy to demonstrate gentleness and kindness to them. In fact, it’s easier to withhold love, because our feelings tell us they certainly do not deserve it! 

Often, these difficult people live in our own homes, or maybe they are our direct report at work. Sometimes, they are even our enemy. When these people come against us in their immaturity or insecurity, or especially in their hatred, it’s easy to let unkind words and attitudes spill out. Our mildness of spirit—our gentleness—disappears in the conflict. 

In these moments we use love like dollar bills, handing them out when people are acceptable to us and snatching them back when our expectations are not met and we are disappointed. 

Are we demonstrating love through consistent kindness with our spouses, our kids, our parents or are we short-tempered? Are we gentle while we are driving or are we wildly gesturing and yelling? Are we courteous with the slow cashier at the store, the inattentive waiter at the restaurant, the salesperson on the phone, or to that person on the Internet?

Courtesy, a display of gentleness and kindness toward another, is an almost forgotten characteristic in our society today. The word is rooted in the ceremonial manners used in a royal court. High respect and consideration for those we live with or meet, especially those who are most difficult, are the appropriate qualities of sons and daughters of the Most High.

How can we consistently love those that grate against us? Why does God ask us to love unlovely people, even those who come against us? 

Consistently showing love through gentleness and kindness is only possible when we acknowledge the consistent love and grace our Father has lavished on us. He never holds back His love, even when we deserve it.

Psalm 117:2 TPT tells us that God’s kindness has melted our hearts. I know it has mine and I am so grateful. 

Let’s make it a practice to melt hearts with gentleness and kindness through our courtesy to others. God’s Spirit within us will enable that fruit to increase and grow.

Consider reading today’s scriptures from The Message. (MSG)