[2020 Vision] Rest-olutions and Resolutions, Part 3. Meaningful RelationshipsSample

Emotional Trust

Do you have someone you trust? Someone you can have a higher connection with, that you are brothers and sisters in Christ with, and are able to turn to emotionally? I hope you emotionally trust your spouse. Kelly is my best, 10 to the 50th power, friend on Earth. We have emotional trust: she, towards me and me, towards her. But we went through a difficult time. It was really hard. 

I watched the weather forecast this weekend. I knew when the fog was rolling in, and I knew when it was rolling out. But when you’re in the fog, you feel like it will never lift. When you are going through hard times, when it's happening to you, you need someone to say, “The sun will shine again. The darkness is not here forever.” You need some weather forecasters in your life, people you emotionally trust, able to say, “The fog is going to lift. Just hang on. Don't do anything crazy in the midst of that fog.”

Kelly and I called another couple that we know, and we told them, “Hey, we’re going through some stuff, and we want to share that with you.” It was 10 o’clock at night when we called and they said, “Why don’t you come over tonight?” No getting ready for a party, no cleaning up the kitchen, no trying to get everything perfect with hors d’oeuvres. Ten o’clock, and they just said, “Y'all come over.” So we went over and sat at the kitchen table. The whole time we were talking, I had my head in my hands. 

We talked for hours. We shared. They shared. They prayed. They gave wisdom. At that moment, there was a deep connection with the Lord, and there was emotional trust. I’ll never forget when they said, “We need to sing the song by Rich Mullins, Step by Step.” There was no music, none of us were good singers, but we held hands in the kitchen, and we sang. 

After that moment, singing that song, Kelly and I got into the car refreshed. The problem wasn’t solved, but we knew we could get through it. The next day, the next week, even for months afterward, every night Kelly and I went to bed, the lights off, we would hold hands there in bed, in the dark, and sing. Sometimes, friend, we had to sing it three times before it sank in. 

Emotional trust. Who will you weep with, and who will weep with you?