Refined - Finding Joy in the Midst of the FireSample

As men and women of God, it is of utmost importance that our standard of living and rules of behavior are in submission to the principles found in the Bible. The world and its counsel are worthless in the life of someone who honors Jesus Christ. When dealing with difficult people and fractious relationships, continually remind yourself that the Word is true and the world is incorrect.

There is not a person who has ever lived who has a better idea than the Bible or who is able to contribute advice to the Lord. If the family of God sincerely put into practice the counsel of the wisdom of God, there would be far fewer dysfunctional families, divorces, and Hatfield-versus-McCoy–type battles!

The truth is that all families are dysfunctional in some manner; however, functional families handle their dysfunction in a functional and healing manner.

These verses apply directly to our relationships with the most difficult and belligerent people in life. Often we have singularly used, “Give, and it shall be given to you. They will pour into your lap a good measure—pressed down, shaken together, and running over. For by your standard of measure it will be measured to you in return,” as specifically applying to finances. However, when read in the context of what Jesus was teaching, it becomes obviously apparent that the primary meaning of these words was meant to be applied to relationships with those who are fractious and disagreeable.

This is a promise found nestled in the words of the New Testament: When a believer refuses to judge, others will find it nearly impossible to judge the life that guile-free believer! When a Christian refuses to condemn others, it will be extremely difficult to find a reason or a source of condemnation in that pure Christian’s life! When a man or a woman determines to be the first to forgive, forgiveness will easily be given to them.

Not only will this powerful believer be free from the pain of others’ judgment, condemnation, and bitterness, but this extraordinary Christian will be given a blessing that is unable to be measured or controlled!