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Appreciation and Affirmation – Part 2

As we saw yesterday, leaders need to express gratitude for those they are leading. We need to affirm and appreciate them.

Paul was a master of affirmation and the evidence is provided throughout his letters. He commended Philemon for providing joy, comfort, and love to Paul and for “refreshing the hearts of the saints” (Philemon 1:7). He called Timothy a kindred spirit who will be genuinely concerned for your welfare” (Philippians 2: 20).

He was also fond of identifying those who were contributing behind the scenes. He mentions Stephanas, Fortunatus, and Achaicus who “devoted themselves for ministry to the saints…and refreshed my spirit and yours,” and encouraged others to acknowledge people like them (1 Corinthians 16: 15-18). He acknowledged the important work of Epaphroditus – his brother, fellow worker, and fellow soldier – as a minister and messenger who was sick to the point of death, yet faithfully served both Paul and the Philippians (Philippians 2: 25-30).

Each of us has a deep-seated need to be appreciated and have our contributions acknowledged. But we are unique individuals and we have personal preferences for how we want that appreciation to be expressed. Leaders need to customize their expressions of gratitude for each individual.

The importance of customizing appreciation is emphasized in Paul White’s book, The Language of Appreciation. This book extends the love language framework into the workplace by identifying the four important appreciation languages that leaders need to speak:

Words of Affirmation: These can be expressed verbally or in handwritten notes.

Quality Time: This could be as simple as just dropping by a co-worker’s office and giving them focused attention. It also includes asking how they're doing - and actually listening to their response.

Acts of Service: This would include pitching in to help on a project or sharing the load on an important deadline-driven assignment.

Tangible Gifts: Rather than generic awards and plaques, gifts should be customized for the individual. What would be meaningful to them? Concert tickets to see their favorite artist or sports team.

Legacy leaders are intentional about acknowledging the contribution of others and they customize their affirmation for each follower. They identify specific character traits and accomplishments, and communicate their appreciation using each follower’s unique appreciation language.

Reflect and Act on these questions:
• Who in your sphere of influence can you show affirmation and appreciation to today? Focus specifically on someone who labors behind the scenes and contributes without being up front or on stage.
• As you reflect on these people, think about their language of appreciation. What would be the most meaningful way to acknowledge these individuals?