One Foot Out the DoorSample

Have you ever noticed how easy it is to fall into a rut in conversations? My husband and I could go all week with just, “Hey, how was your day?” “Do you need anything from me today?” And so on. Because of our busy and conflicting schedules, we have to be intentional to choose quality conversations. 

In the past, when our schedules weren’t so busy, we still struggled with connecting in conversation. Everything I said felt like a personal attack on him, which to be honest, it probably was. And if he so much as said one thing wrong I added it to the list of reasons I was mad at him that day. Sounds ridiculous right? But it becomes a pattern and an atmosphere that we not only create for ourselves but that we continue to live in! It’s not healthy and it’s not helpful. Our spouse becomes our opponent rather than our teammate, and our house becomes the battleground. This isn’t what God wants for you, and I promise it’s not what He intended. 

Right now, it might be hard for you to fathom anything more than “hey” and “bye.” The conversations in your home might be overwhelmed with disdain and discontent or even worse, you may not be having conversations at all. Today, we are going to look at planting seeds for quality conversation to take place. 

1. Pray for the conversations you want to have with your spouse today. You must be internally ready for quality conversation.

 2. Pray for a soft heart that expects good things rather than bad. Be hopeful and expectant for the interactions you will have with your spouse today. Be in prayer that God helps you to see and receive what your spouse has to say with a cheerful and understanding heart.

 3. Pray that your heart is prepared to give grace when your spouse doesn’t receive what you’re saying the way you truly mean it. Since you chose this plan, chances are some difficult conversations need to be had in your near future. I don’t know if today is the day for them, but I do know that the devil is going to be ready and waiting to continue to keep you divided in any way he can. He hates marriage and he hates when couples commit to fighting for a Godly marriage. So, when you offer something up to your spouse that isn’t well-received, have your heart ready for a peaceful exchange rather than entering into a war zone. 

CHALLENGE: 

Pray the prayers above over the day ahead of you. 

Prayer: 

God, marriage is hard, but You are the creator of this beautiful gift and we want to do things Your way. We want to communicate in a way that brings glory to You and starts us on the path to healing. Today, we are praying for soft hearts, open minds, graceful spirits, and peaceful homes. We are praying for situations to arise that encourage quality conversations with one another, safe places to connect with You and our spouse! God, we know You are faithful. We claim Your victory over our marriage.