Rebuilding A Marriage Better Than NewSample

Marriages need honesty. Gut-level, all-out-on-the-table honesty. Outwardly, we have this black and white hatred for deception, but if we do an autopsy on ourselves, an entire layer of acceptable deception is revealed at the same time. Typically, most people have an entire list of lies that they don’t consider wrong and then a separate list of deceptions that are absolutely wrong. We tell half-truths and exaggerate until our story makes us look the hero. But the truth is, there is no difference in any of these. A lie is a lie. No matter how white or little it is.
 
God is pretty clear in Scripture concerning how He feels about lying. In the passage in Proverbs it says there are seven things that are detestable to Him. Out of those seven things that God detests, two of them have to do with lying. That’s 29 percent! We better pay close attention to what we say and make sure it is honest.
 
God’s love for us never fails. We are His people. He wants more for us than humans can even imagine. But that doesn’t mean that we can just cheapen grace by lying, fully knowing that God will forgive us. He most certainly will forgive us. But we must still choose to be a people of truth. If we are not careful, one simple lie can turn into another. And another. And another. Before we are even aware of the web we’ve spun, we are living a deceitful life and can’t tell what is actual and what is fabricated.
 
When you choose to turn over a new leaf by living a life of honesty, God will send His gentle conviction to fall on you. Guilt is not of God. It’s directly from Satan, and it virtually paralyzes you. Conviction, on the other hand, is from the Holy Spirit, and it motivates you to make a change.
 
God’s ways are perfect. Just as He is truth and speaks truth, He wants you to be a person of truth as well. And He will stop at nothing to help you succeed in building a strong character so that your marriage can withstand the struggles that come your way. Don’t give up.
 
Food for thought: Think about a lie you have told. Why did you tell it? Play the scene out in your mind had you chosen to speak the truth in love.