Boundaries in MarriageSample

Boundaries should be clear

Boundaries should be clear. This means they aren’t simply understood, they aren’t assumed; they are clearly discussed and agreed upon. This will take patience and kindness, as 1 Corinthians chapter 13 instructs. Clear communication is an act of kindness that will help stop potential miscommunications before they start.

Unclear boundaries lead to unmet expectations and unmet expectations almost always result in bitterness and resentment. None of these lead to a fruitful marriage. Establish time to discuss what boundaries you would like to implement in your marriage and discuss if they align with the Word of God.

Here are a few easy places to get started:

1. Date nights: How often will you have them? Who plans them? Who books the babysitter? etc.
2. Technology: Are there certain times that phones/ tablets are off limits? Are there certain “quiet” times in your day to ensure good communication happens? Etc.
3. Prayer: When and how often will you pray together?

There are definitely heavier topics to discuss, but lighter topics are a good place to start so you get a feel for healthy exchange. Little victories will set you up for success with the bigger battles.

Pursue boundaries that help your marriage stay on the path toward unity. Consider your spouse and be “willing to yield” with gentleness and kindness as you seek to unify the two unique perspective and preferences you each bring to your marriage.

Prayer:

Heavenly Father, help us to use our marriage to glorify and bring honor to you. We pray today for wisdom in setting healthy boundaries to protect this gift of marriage. Give us peace of mind, clarity, and grace as we communicate with our spouses.