[Wisdom of Solomon] the Wedding Day and NightSample

Do You See Me?

Have you ever wanted someone’s approval? You try everything possible to find their satisfaction in what you do and choose but to no avail. This happens when we find someone we love and want to spend the rest of our lives with. Why is that person’s approval so important? We want to know that we’re headed in the right direction and to be confident in our actions.

In the story of Solomon, we see that his mother placed the crown on him at his wedding. Hearts are rejoicing in this marriage. We see that his mom, Bathsheba, was genuinely saying, “I am for this. You have my blessing.” Imagine the way Solomon must have felt. This should be the goal of all our relationships.

If you’re single, it’s not that your friends’ and family’s opinions are the final deciding factor, but if they are not so sure about your new relationship, you must be humble enough to ask, “Why?” Why are they hesitant about it? Is there any truth or validity to what they have to say? If you’re not careful, you may say, ”I don’t care what anybody else thinks. I’m in love.” But then a few years later, your loved one’s true character emerges, and you care what everybody thinks, and you see what they saw. So then, if you are humble, you could save yourself from heartache by listening to wisdom, not just emotions.

What if you find yourself married and realize something needs to change? This is where you get to say, ”I see your flaws, but I am here to stay.” You can do this because we have found approval with God in Jesus Christ, and this should motivate us to love others as we have been loved. God’s approval changes the game and allows us to display the gospel in our marriages. It also causes us to rely on the Holy Spirit to change our spouse’s heart. You must ask yourself, ”Why do I love this person?” Where does your motivation in marriage come from? Does it come from knowing that Christ has already caused you to be approved, or are you trying to please people around you? When you are rooted in Christ and loving your spouse, despite their flaws, because of how you have been desired and loved by Jesus, this changes the game. You don’t need to look for anyone’s approval; you have God’s, and that’s all you need.