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THE LABOUR AND REWARD OF INTIMACY

There is the labour of intimacy and there is the reward of intimacy; they are two different things. You cannot be looking for the reward of intimacy when you don’t do the labour of intimacy. I have counselled husband and wife that the wife said her husband does not let her use his phone. So, I told them to tell each other their passwords. Furthermore, I exchanged their phones and told them to use the other person’s phone for the next three days. If a lady calls her husband’s line, she should ask her what she wants.

Don’t engage in what can destroy many things that money cannot buy. The anointing of God on me is not worth losing over a stupid girl who is looking to entrap a man of God. You must know what is at stake when you lose your honour in adultery. Your daughter, who calls you ‘Daddy’, your son that looks up to you now hears that somebody that is lesser than his mother messed your name. That is why adultery is a demon that blinds the eyes of the person involved.

About 60% of adultery in marriage takes place with couples that stay apart. In my journey in ministry, I have observed that every minister that got into sexual scandal usually travels alone; they minister alone. When the anointing is moving, and great things are happening, the wife is not there. Meanwhile, somebody is hunting for that man. When scandals begin to come, people say they are lying against that man. Nobody is lying against anybody.

One day, I read in the newspaper of a minister that invited a lady to a hotel and the lady died there. He met the lady on Facebook; she told him she is a minister of the gospel. When they say a man of God failed, where was his wife? Don’t allow your husband to tell you he is going to go alone, that you don’t understand what he is doing. No! You are his helper.

PRAYER: Father, I receive grace to preserve, always, the things money cannot buy in my life and marriage.