The Power of a Praying Bonus MomSample

Day 4: Praying for Your Bio Children

Understanding the Challenge:

Trust that God has a plan for your family. During difficult times, God is there to provide comfort and strength. When worries or concerns arise, bring them before the Lord in prayer, where he exchanges your cares with his perfect peace.

If you have younger biological children, they may not fully understand what's going on with the complexities of the co-parenting dynamic. Regardless of their ages, your bio children may feel confused, anxious, or left out.

Keep in mind, that your bio children, regardless of their age, may be working through the following challenges: 1) confusion and uncertainty, 2) emotional distress, and 3) the need for reassurance and stability.

Let’s unpack each of these areas:

1) Exchange days can be challenging for your bio children who live in your household as well. Younger children may have questions about why their siblings have two different homes or why they spend time with different parents.

2) Kids are observant and know whether there is a conflict between family members. Yes, even when there is tension with your bonus children’s mother. Your bio children may feel anxious, sad, or worried and may struggle to express their feelings or understand the reasons behind the conflicts.

3) Children thrive on routine, stability, and a sense of security within their family environment. The disruptions caused by blended families and co-parenting arrangements may disrupt their sense of stability, leading to a greater need for reassurance, consistency, and emotional support from parents and siblings.

This is why you must respond in prayer.

Let’s Pray:

Lord, all my children are yours. I bring my children before you as you are an omniscient God who knows the challenges they face in understanding and coping with the nuances of our family dynamics. Protect their hearts and minds from any confusion or distress and help them to feel secure in your love and our family. Help me foster strong bonds between them and their bonus siblings. May they always know and feel they are deeply loved and valued by you, by us, and by their siblings. Amen.

Your Action Step:

Child-Led 1:1 Activity with Each Parent: Let them choose an activity they enjoy and spend quality time together engaging in their chosen activity. This individualized attention helps strengthen your bond with each child and creates cherished memories. When the bonus kids return, encourage them to share their experiences and participate in family activities, fostering a sense of inclusion and connection within the blended family.

See you on Day Five.