How to Choose Your Christian Dating Values

Romans 12:2

“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.”

By approaching dating with a Christ-like perspective rather than a worldly one, you not only align yourself with God’s will but also cultivate deeper, more meaningful connections. One way to do this is to choose values to guide your actions as you date.

Today, decide what is important to you and how God is calling you to approach dating. Follow the steps below to identify and commit to the values that will be the foundation of how you pursue relationships.

1. Reflect on Your Beliefs and Convictions

The first step to choosing what you value in dating is to reflect on your beliefs and convictions. What aspects of your faith do you hold dear? For example, if you believe strongly in the sanctity of marriage, then purity might be one of your core dating values.

2. Consider the Biblical Teachings

The Bible offers wisdom on how to handle relationships, and it can be a great source of guidance when choosing your dating values. For instance, the Bible's teachings on love and respect between a husband and wife in Ephesians 5:25-33 could inform your approach to dating.

3. Seek God's Guidance

Prayer is a powerful tool when making decisions. Ask God to guide you in choosing your Christian dating values. What is most important to Him should be most important to you.

4. Commit to Your Values

Once you know your values, commit to them. And don’t be afraid to set boundaries that ensure they’re upheld throughout your dating journey. For example, if you’re waiting until marriage to have sex, communicate that early on so there are clear expectations. If you find yourself settling because you’re tired of dating, lean on your value of patience to trust God’s timing.

Your Christian dating values are opportunities for growth and deeper faith while you date. By integrating these values, you not only enrich your dating experience (and the experience of the people you date) but also lay the groundwork for a lasting relationship that honors God.

We invite you to join us on Upward if you are a single Christian seeking a meaningful relationship.