The Treasure I Married: A 3-Day Marriage PlanSample

The Greatest Gift

"Consider the ravens: They do not sow or reap . . . yet God feeds them. And how much more valuable you are than birds!" (Luke 12:24)

Although the battle for healthy self‐confidence is most often fought by women, many men also struggle with the issue. Unlike a woman, a man derives his sense of worth primarily from the reputation he earns in his job or profession. He draws emotional satisfaction from achieving in business, becoming financially independent, developing a highly respected skill, being the “boss,” or being loved and appreciated by his patients, clients, or business associates. When his career fails, however, look out. His confidence often falters, and he becomes vulnerable. Depression, anger, and withdrawal are just some of his potential responses.

Wives, here’s something to remember: More than anything, your man needs your respect. Compliment him on the qualities you most admire in him. Avoid comments that debase or embarrass him—especially in the eyes of others. As much as is reasonably possible, understand and support his career, but also create such an affirming atmosphere at home that he will be happy to leave career concerns at the office.

The better you understand your differences, the more you’ll appreciate the gift that is your mate.

Questions for Today . . .

• What achievement are you proudest of?
• Are you satisfied with the current state of your career?
• How can I help my spouse with their career?
• How can I show more respect for my spouse and what they do?

Prayer . . .

Father, thank You for my spouse—for the energy, skills, and ambitions you’ve placed in them. Help them to know that You love them no matter how they perform, and please help me show them the honor and respect I feel. Amen.

(Excerpted from Dr. James and Shirley Dobson’s book, Night Light for Couples. Used with permission.)

Bonus Content: Two Ingredients for Respect in Marriage

The Bible tells us to “consider others more important than ourselves.” This is especially crucial in marriage, where becoming complacent and selfish is easy. In this video, Brenen and Morgan Beeler explain how obeying this principle is beneficial because it involves two ingredients of respect. The Beelers describe what these are and how they work together in a relationship.