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The Effect of Offense

Last time, we discussed that we are obligated to forgive because God, for Christ’s sake, has forgiven us.

This time, we will learn that although God has fully and freely forgiven us, it is only by releasing the offense, that we will experience the benefits of His forgiveness. We are compelled to forgive because God, for Christ's sake, has forgiven us. The realization that we are forgiven, undeservedly so, should deepen our appreciation for divine grace.

Beyond divine obligation, we must release offenses for our own sake as well. Ephesians 4:31-32 urges us to let go of bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking. Importantly, it advocates for kindness and tenderheartedness, highlighting that forgiveness is not a one-time event but a constant, ongoing necessity. "Forgiv-ING" is required repeatedly.

God’s forgiveness is complete, but our experience of what His forgiveness provides has stipulations. Matthew 6:14-15 and Mark 11:25 remind us that our receiving of His forgiveness is predicated upon our forgiving others. It is not that God does not forgive us in His Heart; rather, our lack of forgiveness hinders us from experiencing the fullness of His blessing.

1 Peter 3 further clarifies this, specifically for marriages (but in principle applicable to all relationships). It cautions husbands to be communicative with their wives, and to bestow honor, to ensure that their prayers are heard. If the husband and wife refuse to rectify offense, their prayers are hindered (1 Peter 3:7). Although prayer is essential to your relationship with God, it can be hindered by offense.

Hebrews 12 addresses the consequences of holding onto offense. Remaining offended leads to bitterness, which the scripture equates with poison. If we allow the offense to stay in our soul, it becomes septic. Over time it becomes toxic and contagious, affecting not only ourselves but those closest to us. Failure to release offense can lead to generational issues, influencing family dynamics, business dealings, and social interactions. By refusing to release the offense, we inadvertently spread pain and negativity to our surroundings, affecting loved ones and even distant acquaintances.

So, will we dwell on the pain of the offense, allowing it to fester as an infected sore, as a barrier even to our connection to God Himself? Or will we use the offense as an opportunity to exercise grace? As we reflect on the inevitability of offenses and begin the journey of forgiveness, it is important to understand that while offenses come to trap us, we have divine power to release the offense...

LET US PRAY

Lord, I know that offenses will come. In my life, offenses have come. But You have forgiven me. Therefore, I am obligated to forgive others. I also do not want to be the cause of pain in my personal relationships. And I most certainly do not want to pass along to my loved ones any grief that I have experienced. Help me to deal with every offense that has come into my life so that I will not be trapped by them. Reveal any hidden animosity that I may be carrying and give me the strength to let go. You are my Defender, and I trust You to handle every situation according to Your perfect justice. In Jesus’ name, Amen.