Matthew: Healing in His PresenceSample

Healing From Anger

Do you ever find it hard to talk to someone when you feel wronged? I'm not talking murder here, but more the every day arguments, misunderstandings and disagreements that make us angry with someone. In this passage, Jesus is talking about a brother or sister, not a stranger. He's referring to a family member, close friend or spiritually speaking, a Christian or brother/sister in Christ.

He gives an example by using the word "Raca", which is an Aramaic insult meaning "empty-headed", "good-for-nothing" or "worthless". Today, it would be like calling a person "worthless" or any hurtful insult that deeply wounds. What if this person was your family member or friend? You really have to be mad at someone to call them worthless.

Jesus teaches about the dangers of anger in this passage. Holding onto it only hurts you in the long run. More so, stuffing your anger and hurt deep in your soul and simply avoiding the person isn't a good option either. Anger has an actual physiological effect on people, triggering the body’s fight or flight response. The physical reaction of holding onto anger can even hinder your healing process.

"But I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment.” v 22 Why such a strong statement? This is because there are spiritual implications to remaining angry or holding bitterness in your heart towards someone.

Have no fear, Jesus also gives us a plan for what to do with your anger, and no it doesn't involve avoiding the person you're mad at. Instead, in Matthew 5: 23-24 Jesus says to stop what you're doing and go to the person as soon as possible, even that day. Of course, you'd want to first pray about the situation and how to approach the person. It's wise to ask God for his perspective on the situation and to show you what is your part in the conflict. Then go talk to the person, if you can. It's called reconciliation.

Jesus wants us to live with peace in our souls. Not only should we quickly resolve any anger against someone else, He goes on to tell us that if we know someone has an issue with us, then quickly go and reconcile with them. This not only heals our hearts, but our bodies, too. It also takes a very courageous person to do this. Jesus didn't say it would be easy, but it will lead to healing.

Questions:

1. Why does Jesus view unresolved anger as such a serious issue?

2. What steps does Jesus give for resolving conflict with someone you’re angry with?

3. How can reconciliation bring healing to both your heart and body?