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We Need to Talk About Our Needs

You and your partner have core needs. These needs require both of you to practice specific behaviors that make each of you feel loved. These needs are normal, innate, and God-given. They are personality based, an essential part of who you are, and they don’t change over your lifetime.

To feel truly loved, you must have your core needs met on a regular basis. And they can be met only by your significant other.

(It must be stated here that as individuals, we have needs in our lives that only God can meet.)

But here’s the catch. It will be very difficult for you to meet each other’s core needs. It will not come naturally. In fact, meeting your partner’s core needs will be your area of greatest weakness. Doesn’t seem fair, does it? Well, who said love is fair? Love is hard.

Tell your partner your top three core needs. Ask your partner how you are doing with meeting his or her core needs.

For my wife and I, our daily need-meeting system has made a huge difference in our relationship. We are convinced that it will do the same for you and your partner.