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How To Parent Well After The Loss Of A Spouse

DAY 4 OF 4

Don't Believe the Lies. - Stephanie Cook's Journey

We all have painful memories—memories that hurt to the core every time we revisit that moment through our thoughts.  You know the memories I’m referring to. The memories that immediately disrupt your reality and send you back in time to a place of devastation. These become seared into our thoughts and warp our perspectives.

In 2 Kings we see Elisha and his servant surrounded by a great army.  The situation looked bad to their human eyes. Elisha then began to pray.  However, he did not pray for the situation to change or for the circumstances to be different.  He prayed that God would open his servant’s eyes so that he may see.

What did he need to see? I believe that in every painful situation that we face the enemy has lies he wants us to believe. He wants fear to cripple us so we can’t be mighty women and men of God. He wants to tear us down and cause us to have a perspective of a situation that is not accurate.

I believe that we can pray the same prayer that Elisha prayed.  We can ask God to open our eyes that we may see. We can see that in those painful memories God was still there.  

Even though the circumstances were bad, God was cheering for you. He was standing there with His arms wide open waiting for you to run into His arms, embrace Him, and take rest in Him.  

You may have to revisit a painful memory. But first, stop and pray and ask God to show you exactly where He was in that moment and what He was saying to you. This will completely change your perspective on a situation when you can see it through God’s eyes and love.

No matter what pain you have experienced, God wants to open your spiritual eyes and show you the truth in that moment.  God has a truth that He wants to replace the painful memories with so you can look back and see it differently to have healing and peace.

The truth that you may need to hear could be God saying to you, “I loved you so much in that moment,” or “You don’t have to perform to earn my love or make me proud of you.  I love you because you are Mine and I created you.” 

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How To Parent Well After The Loss Of A Spouse

Enduring the loss of a spouse in itself is a painful experience, but when we think about our children, and the impact losing a parent will have on their immediate, and future lives, it can be completely overwhelming. So how do we help our children or our stepchildren through this process? How do we live beyond loss? In this 4 Day Devotional BTB Contributors, Brad Luczywo, Stephanie Cook and BTB Founder, Rachel G. Scott share their journeys and how they learned to Parent Well After Loss. 

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