Legacy Love

One of my favorite authors is Morgan Harper Nichols. Like most of the world, I discovered her on Instagram, noting her beautiful illustrations and poetic words. I especially loved her stunning series called “Lessons from the Monarch Butterfly Migration.” Reading about how it takes multiple generations of butterflies to migrate in one season was so compelling. She noted that “butterflies in the middle of the migration do not live long enough to see the next generation reach their final destination, and yet still, they were part of a community of butterflies all working toward a common goal...a cycle.” I hadn’t heard this before, and her words and illustrations reminded me that we are all just part of a journey that continues, even after our time on earth is done.

We are part of a bigger story and all have our part to play. Even if you are in the middle of the darkest story, with the most challenging circumstances, with everything working against you, you can still choose to change your legacy. You don’t have to become your worst circumstances. There is redemption in pain. There is grace for the hard things we experience. We can learn to forgive. And no matter the past, we are in control of our legacy as we move forward.

Sometimes, I think about the generations surrounding me and how each generation has influenced those coming behind them—those they didn’t even know. I think about what my parents instilled into their kids and grandchildren. I’m grateful for what I learned watching my dad care for my mom in her declining state. I wonder what my kids will carry on from me and what I will teach my grandkids, and I think about people in my life that I love, and I pray I’m living and loving them with purpose, too. I remember, with a little sadness, that one day, I, too, will be only a memory.

Psalm 103:17 says, “But from everlasting to everlasting the Lord’s love is with those who fear him, and his righteousness with their children’s, children.” So, live with legacy in mind. I draw from the one I’ve seen and try to make choices, so the one I leave will be a beautiful reflection someday for those who come behind. Our legacy is our chance to affect the future, no matter the past. I won’t be the butterfly that sees the complete end of the journey, but I’m grateful to be part of the path.

We hope you have found this 5-day plan encouraging in your journey as a caregiver. For those seeking a deeper experience, more encouragement and inspiration are available in Shelly's book, The Longest Goodbye: A Family's Hope-Filled Journey Through Alzheimer's.