Self Care After Discovering Infidelity in Your MarriageSample

Balance Self-Care Steps with Care for Your Husband

The steps we’ve discussed are all about working on yourself: reordering your own thinking and changing your own behavior so you can become the woman God wants you to be. But God also wants you to love and care for your husband. Just like Christ modeled grace and truth to those in sexual sin, your compassion coupled with real boundaries and accountability for your husband can go hand in hand.

Be careful not to misunderstand. We don’t want you to equate “care” with old, unhealthy ways of relating that are demeaning to you. Caring means balancing your hurt and disappointment with an understanding that God also loves your husband and that he is potentially able to change with effective help.

The best thing you can do for him at this point is to allow him to see you walk with a healthy self-respect as you also pray for him with godly compassion.

For more help, visit FocusOnTheFamily.com/Pornography. You can also call Focus on the Family's counseling department for a free consultation at 855-771-HELP (4357). You are not alone and you are in our prayers.