Freedom and Forgiveness

Father, forgive them; for they do not know what they are doing”

Luke 23:34

Freedom through forgiveness is a radical challenge for us. We’re used to holding grudges, waiting for the mystical karma, or handling business on our own.

We’re not naturally inclined to tell on ourselves, nor are we quick to apologize. When we’ve offended our beloved, and failed or refused to apologize and ask forgiveness we leave wounds on their spirit.

Those injuries don’t just go away. Remember this: time does not heal inner pain.

When apologies come easy because both of you trust that repair and restoration are the goals, the soft words short-circuit potential implosions. This safe shelter of communications is also a result of a shared mutual respect for each other.

Sometimes we set an expectation for our spouse that moves beyond self-improvement and into an unobtainable perfection. Without the mutual grace of forgiveness, spouses find themselves in an unenviable demigod position of doing no wrong.

That shaky pedestal won’t last, and because we’re hesitant to confess when forgiveness is needed, we remain perched on a broken branch of selfish refusals and dangerous denial. A trusted place to seek forgiveness removes the hesitation of being seen as weak.

The only way you will grow an indestructible marriage is to assure each other that forgiveness for a confessed and repentant heart is the grace both will always offer each other.

CALL TO ACTION:

Today, both of you promise each other that there is a safe place to land in confession and that each will be there to forgive and help the other one up. Forgiving is about freeing yourself from the offense against you. It doesn’t approve of what the other person did, but it will open the door toward healing for both parties.