Money Marriage

The rich rule over the poor, and the borrower is servant to the lender.

Proverbs 22:7

Money is one of the most fought-over issues in relationships. Next, blend two individuals from independent socioeconomic backgrounds, and you’ve got an epic blowout just waiting to occur.

Fair, Not Equal

You must think in terms of fair, and not equal when it comes to dealing with every situation that requires money. Will you mix your money or maintain separate bank accounts? Unless there are binding legal contracts, wills, heirship, or annuities preventing the commingling of monies, God’s will for the union of two people entering into a heavenly covenant is for two to become one.

All In

While you may prosper financially, or just get by with paying the bills with two separate accounts, you’re missing a spiritual blessing by not obeying God’s word to blend.

There can be no a la carte of blending lives, kids, cash, or debts. It’s not realistic to "say" I’ll blend the bedroom "closet", but not your cash. No, it’s all in.

When your money is just dating, it may have the tendency to venture out on its own expenditures, new people, or to oppress your spouse. Chances are you earn different salaries. The one who makes more, but only chips in to match their spouse on bills, mortgage, education, etc. rules over them according to God’s word. Relational inequity grinds against God’s grain.

I Now Challenge You To:

Combine all money accounts.

Work together on developing monthly budgets. Set financial priorities.

Consult each other before big purchases. Create realistic family financial goals. Discuss money with children – appropriately skip the Prenups.

How Have You Blended Monies?

CALL TO ACTION:

Commit to not allowing money to control your marriage. Take immediate steps today to set a budget, boundaries, and a vision for establishing the role of money as a resource in your relationship.