Love, Intimacy and Sex in the Second Half of Marriage: Part 3 - SEXSample

Romance

Reread today’s verses. Solomon and his bride got romance. The evidence is on page after page of that book. In today’s verses from Song of Solomon, we see both spouses trade specific, detailed compliments on the physical attributes they find most attractive. I’m guessing one or both of them had “words” as their love language!

Romance is important. It’s how we continue to see our spouse as Proverbs 18:22 says, as a gift from God and to nurture our marriage relationship. Most couples I talk to say that the romance before marriage was good. The problem for many guys is that after they get her to say yes, they set the romance aside. It served its purpose and they think the marriage can exist without it. We stop being intentional about romance, think that it no longer matters, or just get lazy. We may have ideas but never follow through on them.

If the romance in your marriage has slowed or is nonexistent, it is time to rekindle it. A good place to begin is by learning your wife’s love language. Since Nancy’s is quality time, anything I do that gives her quality time with me is seen as romantic. Giving her my undivided attention without any distractions is romantic to her. It is not so much the restaurant or beach or adventure. It is the quality time.

Opportunities to be romantic come in a variety of ways. Look back at today’s scriptures. You can begin just by letting your spouse know all the ways you find them attractive. Or telling them how thankful you are for them. If you are stuck on this one, here are some suggestions: Do what you did before marriage. If it worked then, it will probably work now. Find out what says “romance” to your spouse.

A lifetime of awesome sex happens when we take action. We need to not just talk about frequency, quality, and differences in sex — we need to take action steps. If the romance has died down in your marriage, today is a great day to rekindle the flame.

Things To Think About:

• What does romance mean to each of you?
• Share your most romantic time together with each other.
• What do you want romance to look like today?