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Five Steps to Reconciliation

Jesus gives us two commands that cannot be separated: love God, and love your neighbor as yourself. To do one is to do the other. To neglect one is to neglect both.

The call to love our neighbor comes from a book we often overlook: Leviticus. Amid lists of sacrifices and detailed laws, God inserts this radical command. Jesus makes it central, saying, “If you forget everything else, don’t forget this.”

Here, love and justice are intertwined. True forgiveness isn’t shallow; it moves through difficulty with truth to achieve reconciliation. These verses trace a clear path: three things to avoid, and two actions to embrace.

First, don’t seek revenge. When someone wrongs you, resist the urge to retaliate. Don’t insult, abuse, or harm in return. This is the bare minimum of forgiveness.

Second, don’t hate in your heart. Acknowledge the humanity of those who hurt you. Don’t diminish their worth, even as you hold them accountable. This humility is hard, but essential.

Third, don’t bear a grudge. Release lingering resentment. Clinging to a grudge only hands your offender ongoing power over your soul. But forgiveness alone isn’t enough. Leviticus calls us further.

Fourth, rebuke your neighbor frankly. Confront wrongdoing directly, clearly, and safely without gossip or exaggeration. Justice requires honesty.

Finally, choose love. Love your neighbor as yourself. Forgiveness may not erase the past, but love discards the record of wrongs. It frees both the giver and the receiver and opens the door to reconciliation.

This path isn’t easy. It costs us. It invites us to suffer, to walk with Christ in His patience, mercy, and grace. But this is God’s design for true freedom, founded on justice and lived in love.

Take a moment to reflect: Is there someone you need to forgive, confront, or love differently today? How can you take the next step toward true reconciliation?

Prayer

Lord Jesus, teach me to love fully, to forgive without holding grudges, and to confront wrongdoing with truth and grace. Help me release resentment and resist revenge. Guide my heart to act in patience and humility, reflecting Your justice and mercy. May my life embody the freedom and reconciliation that comes from loving You and my neighbor as myself.

In Your name I pray.
Amen.