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The First Step in Forgiveness

We often assume forgiveness is about feelings. How can I forgive if I don’t feel forgiving? It seems dishonest to pretend otherwise. But forgiveness doesn’t start with emotion; it begins with a decision.

When we’re wronged, anger flares, indignation burns, and our minds race with ways to get even. We rationalize: “He needs to learn a lesson.” “I’ll let her sit with the guilt.” “I was wronged; it’s not my move to make.” As Philip Yancey observes, it’s easy to justify holding on to unforgiveness.

But true forgiveness begins with a choice: not retaliation, not revenge. Even when resentment lingers and emotions resist, God calls us to a better way. Paul offers a radical command: “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him a drink” (Romans 12:20). Instead of fueling bitterness, forgiveness redirects our energy toward blessing.

This doesn’t mean excusing harm or pretending pain isn’t real. It means choosing to leave justice in God’s hands, trusting Him to do what’s right. That choice, even when feelings lag behind, can open the door to repentance, reconciliation, and healing for you and for the one who wronged you.

Take a moment today: Who do you need to choose to forgive even if your feelings aren’t there yet? How might God use that step of obedience to bring freedom and restoration?

Prayer

Lord Jesus, teach me to choose forgiveness even when my heart resists, and help me release the desire for revenge. Let Your love guide my actions, not my emotions, and show me how blessing those who hurt me can bring freedom and healing. May my obedience open the door to reconciliation and peace in every broken place.

In Your name I pray.
Amen.

Thank you for walking through this week exploring God’s incredible gift of forgiveness. I hope that every story, passage, and reflection has drawn you closer to His mercy and grace. May God help open your heart to healing, reconciliation, and the freedom only He can give. Let His Spirit guide your relationships, renew your heart, and fill your life with the peace that comes from walking in His love.