Your Post-Break-Up Guide to Being Alright 預覽

Analyze Your Past Relationships

Before heading back into the dating world, it’s a good idea to analyze what went well and wrong in your past relationship. That way, you can be better and do better in your next relationship. Once you’ve taken the time to feel all the big emotions that come up post-break-up, you can start digging deeper into the realities of your past relationship.

Now, this isn’t a time to bash yourself–nobody is perfect, and everyone always has something they can work on to be better. It’s also not a time to point your finger at your ex and list everything they ever did wrong. Instead, it’s a time to ask the Holy Spirit for wisdom and discernment. It’s a time to ask your closest friends and family for their opinions and advice. Sometimes it’s hard to see what went wrong when you’re so emotionally invested. But the people who love you the most can help open your eyes to a new perspective on the relationship.

They say honesty is the best policy, which is true when it comes to analyzing your past relationships. Relationships end for so many reasons. And if you’re honest with yourself, you might be able to pinpoint a few things that didn’t go so well.

●Were there red flags at the beginning of the relationship that you ignored?

●Did you leave God out of the decision of whether or not to date the person?

●Did you leave God out of the relationship altogether?

●Was the person a Christian who actively followed Jesus and pursued their relationship with God?

●Did your friends and family like the person?

●Did you bring “baggage” into the relationship?

●Was the person unfaithful to you? Were you unfaithful to them?

The list of questions could go on, but you probably already know deep down some of the things that weren’t right on your part and theirs. While you can’t change the other person, you do get to decide to date better next time.

Now, there is a chance that the answer to why your relationship ended is simply because it’s not the person God has for you. Everything else could have been ideal, but the timing wasn’t right. In such cases, the only way to be okay is to trust God’s perfect timing and plan. He has a purpose for your life, He knows the people you’ll spend it with, and all of it is good.