Your Post-Break-Up Guide to Being Alright 預覽

Take Time to Pursue God and Find Yourself

While dating is enjoyable and exciting, it can also take time away from pursuing things for yourself. Sometimes people feel like they “lose themselves” in relationships because everything they do and think about revolves around the other person. If you don’t prioritize your relationship with God, dating can actually pull you away from Him. If you don’t know who you are on your own, dating can mold you into someone you’re not. If you don’t unapologetically follow your heart and the purpose and passions God has for you, dating could completely distract you from them.

Being newly single is an opportunity to pursue God and find yourself with the same intentionally and dedication as you do a relationship. The more you pour into your faith, the more you’ll learn about God and His plan for your life. The more you learn about your purpose, the more connected you become with yourself. And when you know and love the person God created you to be, you can find a partner who supports and celebrates that–someone who encourages you in your faith and your calling.

Dating requires a lot of time and energy. Now that you’re newly single, ask God how He wants you to spend your additional time. Think about things you’ve wanted to do or accomplish but haven’t had the opportunity to pursue. Do you want to travel? Do you want to pursue higher education? Do you want to start your own business? Do you want to volunteer in your community? Do you want to further your career? Do you want to spend more time with your friends or family? Maybe you’re not sure what you want to do, and that’s okay! Now is a great time to ask God and follow His lead.

God doesn’t hate dating. And if His plan for you is to one day be in a loving, committed relationship that leads to marriage, it will happen. But He may have other things He is calling you to first. Pursue those things wholeheartedly, and you won’t regret it.