Communication and Connection: A Biblical PerspectiveSample

Foundations of Communication

Unfortunately, when my husband and I married, I was a bit of a hothead. He, on the other hand, had the patience of a saint. His patience was equally a welcoming gift and something I despised. I loved it because I needed the life he was bringing with his bridled tongue, but I didn’t like it because it starkly contrasted the destruction I was bringing with my unbridled tongue. His words of life highlighted the area that I needed to change, and that was a hard pill to swallow for me.

What happened with the communication in our marriage was precisely what scripture says will happen. Just like in Proverbs 15:1, he used soft words to bring calm over me, and I stirred up anger with my harsh words.

God tells us that our words have power—not just any kind of power—but the kind that can bring life or death. It became clear that if our marriage were going to survive, I would need to quit using my words for destruction and start following my husband's lead by learning to use my words to bring life.

Fortunately, I did do just that and began to tame my tongue. I repented, asked for my husband's help and support, and followed his lead and what God said. Good communication in marriage is rooted in the truth of scripture, and how you choose to use your words will indeed impact your marriage negatively or positively.

Take Action:

If you've been using your words to lash out in anger, criticize, or snap at your spouse, take the time to repent and start to work on change.

Let's Pray:

Dear Lord,

Please help me use my words wisely and bring life to my spouse and marriage. In Jesus' name, amen.