Practical Tips for Fighting Fair

Colossians 3:13

“Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”

While misunderstandings and disagreements are inevitable, they don’t get the final say. So, how do you fight fairly, especially when you’re in the heat of the moment? Never underestimate the power of forgiveness.

Forgiveness is not just an act of letting go of grievances; it's a pathway to healing and understanding. It requires strength, humility, and compassion.

Seek Forgiveness: If you realize that your actions or words have hurt your partner, take the courageous step to seek their forgiveness. Acknowledge your mistake and express your sincere regret.

Be Open to Forgiveness: On the other hand, if you are the one who's been hurt, allow your partner the opportunity to apologize. Listen to their apology with an open heart and be ready to forgive.

Forgiveness is one of the most important aspects of fighting fair because we all make mistakes. We all say things we shouldn’t and need grace to move forward together. As Christians, we are called to forgive, just like Christ forgave us.

Practicing forgiveness is so powerful. It starts the process of healing. When you can admit your mistakes, you’re showing your partner you’re committed to making things right. When you accept their apology and extend forgiveness, you create an environment where your partner feels loved and accepted unconditionally.

All relationships — even those that are Christ-centered — will inevitably face challenging moments. Disagreements and misunderstandings are part of the human experience, and no relationship is exempt from them. However, how you navigate these challenges can significantly shape the course of your relationships. When you “fight fair” and approach conflicts with love and respect, you create an environment where you both feel heard, valued, and safe.

We invite you to join us on Upward if you are a Christian single looking for a meaningful relationship.