Love, Intimacy and Sex in the Second Half of Marriage: Part 2 - IntimacySample

Spiritual Intimacy

Of all the different types of intimacy a couple can experience in a marriage, I believe spiritual intimacy is the most important. Jesus said in Matthew 18:20, “For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.” In the book of Genesis, when there was just one man and just one woman, we read that they spent time with God together. That kind of intimacy, in my opinion, stands above all the rest. It is the essence of intimacy, and it connects a couple with each other and to the creator of the universe. It does not get any better than that!

In our marriage, Nancy and I each have a one-on-one relationship with God, then we have our relationship with God together as a married couple. The Bible tells us that, out of all the possible relationships in the world, the marriage relationship is second only to our relationship with God. So together we have a relationship with God. This can sound intimidating, but really it is just seeking to grow closer to God, together.

Colossians 3:16 breaks this down into simple steps of pursuing God, “let the word of Christ dwell in you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom through psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit, singing to God with gratitude in your hearts.”

In our marriage, we do this by praying together, reading the Bible together, and worshiping together in church.

Spiritual intimacy grows as we do all of these things. It is being diligent together in the things that connect us to God. It is what Paul is talking about in 1 Thessalonians 5:11, "Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing." If you are there, keep doing what you are doing. If you are not there yet, you can be. Seek God together, and know without a doubt that He will show up big time!

Things To Think About:

• On a 1 to 10 scale with 10 being the highest, rate your marriage in the areas of praying together, reading the Bible together, and worshiping together.
• If you as a couple made spiritual intimacy a goal, what would be your steps and your accountability?
• Why would God, who has access to every person in the world, want to be spiritually intimate with the two of you?

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