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Day 4: Building Your Queen’s Court

“Now if we are children, then we are heirs—heirs of God and co-heirs with Christ, if indeed we share in his sufferings in order that we may also share in his glory.” (Romans 8:17)

No queen reigns alone. Her true strength multiplies when she nurtures relationships that reinforce, challenge, and empower her. Throughout history, the most impactful queens weren’t isolated—they were supported by trusted allies, a “court” where each person played a vital role.

Often, we invest so much in others—coaching, mentoring, and encouraging—yet we forget that we, too, need to be poured into. In her book, Wendy describes a season when her husband Benny observed, “All your friends seem like projects.” She was always the one offering guidance or motivation, but lacked peer relationships where she could safely confide and receive support. She was a “giving” queen, yet rarely allowed herself the space to “receive.”

Why does this happen? Frequently, we’re afraid to show our vulnerabilities. We worry that if others see our weaknesses, they’ll decide we’re not qualified or enough. But Proverbs 27:17 reminds us: “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” In the context of women’s leadership, this means queens surrounded by other queens sharpen one another. Acknowledging our limits isn’t weakness; it’s a divine invitation to collaborate with women whose strengths complement ours, forming a powerful alliance for God’s Kingdom.

Healthy relationships develop when we honestly admit our “blind spots” and open up to those who can fill the gaps with their skills and experience. In this light, our limitations become gateways for God to lead us to the right people, producing a “multiplier effect” for both our personal growth and our broader impact.

Another common obstacle is a scarcity mentality: the idea that there’s room for only one successful woman, or that there are a limited number of “seats at the table” in ministry or the professional world. This lie fosters competition and envy rather than collaboration and support. Yet our inheritance in Christ is abundant—Romans 8:17 assures us we are co-heirs with Him, not rivals. In God’s Kingdom, there is room for everyone, and a true queen doesn’t settle for one slice of pie; she creates new opportunities and invites other women to join her at the table.

Reflection Questions:

1. Which relationships allow you to be completely yourself, with both strengths and weaknesses? What qualities make those connections genuine?
2. In which areas do you still sense scarcity or competition with other women? How might your perspective shift if you embraced Christ’s abundant mindset?
3. What practical steps could you take, starting today, to nurture a genuine peer relationship?

Prayer: Lord, thank You that You have not called me to reign alone. You’ve made me a co-heir with Christ, and You want me to be part of a spiritual family filled with diverse gifts and talents. Help me view my limitations as opportunities for collaboration, not as reasons for shame. Teach me to welcome the strong, secure women You place in my path, and in turn, make me a blessing to them. Guard my heart from a competitive mindset, and fill me with a desire to create spaces of abundance and growth, where every woman can shine. Amen.