11 1/2 Questions To Help You Date Without RegretsSample

Despite what society says, the end goal to dating someone is ultimately marriage. It’s important for two people to get to know each other really well through the process. And while I believe dating should be taken seriously, I also believe it’s OK to go eat food and get to know each other a bit to see if this is a relationship worth pursuing.

Maybe you’re dating someone and deep down you know he or she is not who you are supposed to be with. Your excuse is that you’re in love and that you’ll be able to work it out. Just because you’re “in love” with someone doesn’t mean it is wise, practical, a good idea, or the will of God to marry that person. You didn’t accidentally fall in love, and you won’t accidentally stay in love. So if it’s not clear, don’t push forward.

One of the biggest reasons given for divorce today is “irreconcilable differences” and people complaining “we are simply incompatible.” Truth be told, you are incompatible with everyone on the planet. There is no one who is just like you. A successful marriage is not based on how compatible a couple is, but how willing they are to love one another continually and consistently despite their incompatibility. The more you seek to understand your differences, the less they will drive you apart.

If you’re with someone and you’re asking yourself again and again if he or she is “the one,” let me tell you that you will always have questions. That’s normal. Why? Because you’re human and the person you’re with is human. We all have flaws. We all have things we need to keep working on about ourselves. If there are some obvious red flags then you probably don’t need to marry that person, but if it’s minor things like you don’t like how he chews his food or you hate how long it takes her to get ready, that’s normal.

You’ll find “the one” right next to the unicorn behind the leprechaun and his pot of gold. They don’t exist. When you marry someone, that person becomes “the one.” After you’re married, you no longer have the option to pursue anyone else. You’ve made your choice, and now it’s up to you to pursue the one you’re married to.

A friend of mine once said we have the choice to live in fear or to live in faith. We can become consumed in fear that he or she is not “the one.” Or we can live in faith, knowing that we need to be listening to the One, Jesus, as to whether or not these are His plans for our lives.