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Living out of the Gospel, Not out of Exhaustion

During difficult times in marriage, we often feel that our resources are depleted. We have little patience, no strength to forgive, and our desire to love disappears. At this point, we are tempted to think that the problem lies with us: we are not spiritual enough, not patient enough, not strong enough.

In the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus speaks of people who seek righteousness. But in the biblical sense, a righteous person is not someone who has already achieved perfection. It is someone to whom God has graciously given His righteousness through faith. Righteousness is not a reward for effort, but a gift that is received.

This is where the Gospel begins.
We are able to give love not because we have enough of it, but because we first received it from God. We can show grace not from our own reserves, but from the realization that we ourselves live by grace.

Many marriages break down not because of a lack of effort, but because of an attempt to live a Christian life without the Gospel—relying solely on our own strength. But when we return daily to the truth that God accepted us not because of our merits, but out of love, a new space for patience, mercy, and hope appears in our hearts.

Marriage begins to be restored when we stop demanding that ourselves and others be "good enough" and learn to live from the righteousness that has been given to us. It is this reality that becomes the source of strength to love—day after day.

Questions for reflection:

• Where do I try to draw strength for love today—from myself or from God's grace?
• In what situations do I expect more from myself or my partner than a person is capable of giving?
• How can the awareness of the righteousness that has been given to me change my attitude toward our marriage?

Prayer:

Lord, thank You for the righteousness You have given me by grace. Teach me to live out this love and share it in our relationship.

Amen.